When Parents Cry

Death and life are incomplete without the other. There can be no death without life. There can be no life without death. Seed must die to bring forth the new life of autumn crops. The crops must die to produce the seed for planting in spring.

As the Lion King gave special meaning to this constant with the heart-stirring “Circle of Life,” the tune failed to soothe the heart and soul when death stirs its ghoulish head, as life seeps out of what once was vibrant and strong. This becomes even more pronounced when it seems that the Dark Angel comes too early, not within the usual order or course.

It is then when parents cry.

Down through the ages we have accepted that parents produce children who later in life care for parents and tend to their final needs. Children may mourn and greatly feel the loss, but the loss of parents from a child gone too soon seems to be more tragic and tear more deeply the heart.

So it is even now as my own parents, doing their best to cope, watch with trembling lips, tear-laced eyes, as each day I move ever closer to the river and the ferryman beckons. Emotions are raw, laid bare upon the altar.

What will the next phone call, text, knock on the door reveal?

The great 17th Century author John Donne had to deal with the loss of his son. Donne gave us these immortal words which continue to provide strength and solace when parents cry.

Death be not proud, though some have called thee Mighty and dreadful, for, thou art not so, For, those, whom thou think’st, thou dost overthrow, Die not, poor death. 

So when parents cry, remember:

  • Reach out and touch.
  • Sit and listen.
  • Cherish the pictures shared.
  • The pain is real.
  • The hurt unimaginable.
  • Pray

Today’s Thought: The Mouth

Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him: but I will maintain mine own ways before Him.

– Job 13:15

And said, Naked came I out of my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return thither: the Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.

In all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly.

– Job 1:21-22

And Jesus said, Are ye also yet without understanding?

Do not ye yet understand, that whatsoever entereth in at the mouth goeth into the belly, and is cast out into the draught?

But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.

For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:

These are the things which defile a man: but to eat with unwashen hands defileth not a man.

– Matthew 15:16-20

Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!

And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.

For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind:

But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.

Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God.

Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.

Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter?

Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.

– James 3:5-12

That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.

For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.

– Romans 10:9-10